Question of the Month

I don't want, nor do I really have time for, a receiving line after my ceremony. What would be the most tasteful way to let guests know this? Should I have the minister announce this at the ceremony?

Answer:

Whether you decide to have a receiving line or not is simply a matter of choice. It's certainly not required. At small weddings -- where there's ample opportunity to meet and greet all guests -- you can do without a receiving line. There's no need to have your officiant make an announcement. The fact that you're having no receiving line will be obvious to guests when they leave the ceremony and enter the reception.

A receiving line is a traditional and organized way for the wedding party to greet guests, after the ceremony or upon their arrival at the reception. It definitely makes sense to do so at a large wedding, where it would be a challenge for the bride, groom and their parents to speak to everyone. A rule of thumb: if there are more than 75 guests attending your wedding, it's a good idea to have a receiving line.

Receiving lines can be kept short and sweet. Limit it to the bride and groom, your mothers, and possibly your dads. Although the usual line-up does include the best man and maid of honor, with fathers and bridesmaids being optional participants, you may shorten yours as makes sense for the sake of facilitating the flow. How can you help keep the line moving? If a guest becomes too talkative, gently break in and introduce the chatty Kathy to the next person in line.

If you do decide to go without a receiving line, be sure to greet every guest at your reception. No matter how large or small, your reception is a celebration, and you and your family(s) are the hosts. You are there to welcome guests and enjoy their company. Let them know how happy and pleased you are that they are there to celebrate with you.