00:00 | THE
COCKTAIL HOUR
After being
pronounced husband and wife,
the newlyweds often are the
first to leave the ceremony,
heading off (with
photographer in tow) for
pictures together before the
partying gets under way.
Your guests will head to the
reception site for
cocktails. Depending on the
logistics of the event, your
cocktail hour will begin
immediately (if the ceremony
and reception are held at
the same venue), or it might
start more than half an hour
later (if there's travel
involved). Cocktails will
kick off your reception and
will last for at least an
hour. During this time
stationary or passed
appetizers and drinks will
be served, which will get
people mingling and in the
mood. Don't forget: Greeting
your guests is essential!
It's customary for the
couple, along with their
parents and the bridal
party, to form a receiving
line outside the ceremony
site to greet guests before
the escape. Many couples
these days are opting for
this post-ceremony receiving
line, rather than going from
table to table during
dinner. But if you haven't
done so, you should form one
now.
01:00 |
NEWLYWEDS' ARRIVAL/FIRST
DANCE
Here's the
part where the bride and
groom make their grand
entrance. The coordinator
usually will make sure
guests are seated before the
emcee alerts them to your
imminent arrival. Generally,
both sets of parents and the
wedding party are
introduced, followed by the
announcement of the couple
for the first time as
husband and wife. In many
cases, your newlywed first
dance will begin as you step
out onto the floor and into
the spotlight after being
announced. Alternately, you
can wait until after the
first course of the meal is
served, but since everyone
already is cheering you as
you enter the reception, use
the applause as
encouragement enough to skim
away any shyness and step on
out.
01:20 |
CHEERS & TOASTS
Following
your first dance, you might
want to take the opportunity
-- while all eyes are still
on you and most attentive,
since hopefully no one yet
has had too much to drink --
to thank everyone en masse
for taking part in your
wedding. A family member,
often a parent of the bride,
will say a blessing
(depending on the families'
faiths). Then, since
toasting signifies a
transition in the course of
an event, the mother and
father of the bride will
thank guests for attending
and invite everyone to enjoy
the celebratory meal. Keep
in mind that the toasts
given by the best man and
the maid of honor should
occur between courses, to
spread out all the
high-emotion,
much-anticipated moments and
keep guests in their seats.
01:30 | LET’S
EAT!
It’s time to
enjoy the food. If you're
having a seated meal, the
band will play subdued,
conversation-friendly
background music as the
waiter staff makes the
rounds. If you're having a
buffet, your coordinator or
bandleader will dictate how
the rotation will work by
calling each table when it's
time to head to the front of
the line. Just remember: The
bride and groom need to do
everything possible to take
their seats and eat!
02:45 | PARTY
TIME
Monkey-see,
monkey-do is how this game
is played. Guests are going
to follow the lead of the
bride and groom. Once dinner
dishes are cleared, the
newlyweds should be the
first ones on the dance
floor so people know it's
time to start partying like
it's 1999 -- er, 2006.
Throughout the jam session,
the music will stop for any
extracurricular activities
you've planned (also known
as the bouquet toss, the
garter toss, the centerpiece
giveaways, and whatever else
you've dreamed up). If you
do choose to toss the
bouquet, make sure to get a
throwaway from the florist
so you can keep your
original bouquet as a
memento.
04:00 | CAKE
CUTTING
About one
hour before the conclusion
of the reception, when the
party starts getting a
little too rowdy and the bar
starts getting a little too
empty, your waitstaff should
start preparing tables for
coffee and dessert. Since
the cutting of the cake
generally signals to guests
that it's okay to leave soon
thereafter, be sure not to
do this too early or things
could start wrapping up
before you're ready.
04:15 | BACK
TO PARTYING!
Once the cake
is cut, the DJ/Band should
start right back into swing
and play music for those
wanting to trade in their
slices for another turn on
the dance floor.
04:45 | LAST
DANCE
End your
wedding on a high note and
choose a dance song that
will leave a lasting
impression. You'll want
everyone to have a chance
for one last twirl, so
select something fast and
festive.
05:00 | FINAL
FAREWELL
Now the time
has come to say good-bye.
Your coordinator will usher
everyone into the foyer or
onto the steps outdoors so
that as you make your grand
exit from the reception,
friends and family can blow
bubbles, light sparklers, or
toss rose petals -- and
cheer to your successful
celebration and future
together.
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